Good sex: always having at least one orgasm, being passionately, communicating about stuff we like or don't like
Incredible: All of the above + great, affectionate foreplay, including personal kinks a lot, etc.
Agreeing with this very much. I don’t have much issues in having an orgasm, but that’s just my body reacting. With long enough foreplay were my mind gets time to “get into the space”, my orgasms are so much more different and satisfying.
Passion passion passion. Enthusiasm. Praise. Roughness. Tell me what a good girl I am while you have my hair knotted in your fist.
Orgasms, lots of sensual touching, kissing, exploring all over the body before tasting the main course.
When it gets down to it, rough and hard, vocal when something feels good.
“Tell me what a good girl I am while you have my hair knotted in your fist” THAT 😩🤌🏻 or, while you have your hand around my throat and choking me in the best way. 🙌🏼
When your faces are only inches apart and you're looking into each other's eyes, breathless and at least one of you has their heart racing with all that adrenaline and he's goes deeper with every stroke. That moment of insane intimacy.
So basically a very tight connection between the two people.
Yes. Ill be honest, most times when i look at men while they fuck me i get the ick.. . But this one time, THIS ONE TIME I was about to cum and he pulled me in close, holding my jaw in his hand, and we just peered right through eachothers souls before i came. Never will i forget that level of intimacy
Kissing, eye contact, praise (personal preference), switching positions and taking more time to get me off, etc.
The worst sex I’ve had has been with men who either 1) think that just rubbing the clit for 30 seconds causes an orgasm, 2) think one orgasm is enough for a woman, and/or 3) don’t even do any foreplay/oral.
Let me add to the list
4) guys that equate them being hard, with me being wet and ready and just ram it in..... no, amigo, I require a little more effort (I have found these guys are probably the same as Mr. 1
It's the chemistry. The guy could be an honour student from the university of amazing orgasms,but if you don't have that connection the sex will just be blah.. The best sex I ever had was with the guy who hardly knew what he was doing,but we we're so burning for eachother it was almost painful. That kind of chemistry equals good sex.
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1) foreplay makes us wet, which helps orgasm later on.
2) letting us orgasm once first is very attractive.
3) passion and some level or intimacy.
4) honestly getting skillfully railed is lovely.
A patient and attentive partner. If my pleasure and orgasm feels like a chore it ruins it for me. I also hate the feeling of being rushed. Why are we in such a hurry? Sex is fun and feels good. I know different things feel good for different people but if she’s laying there like a starfish and is silent… things aren’t going well.
Good sex is feeling that connection and having a penetrative orgasm at least for me.
Great sex is feeling totally in sync with your partner and feeling like both of your orgasms are the goal. Cumming at the same time? Incredible.
Great sex for me is getting good oral until I orgasm and am begging for it. Make my legs shake and squeeze your head lol. Then have your way with me. That’s hot too.
Too many men only care about making themselves feel good and think they are gods gift to women. A great sexual partner will make both yours and there’s a priority no matter what. They will also make you feel comfortable and safe. And for gods sake, communicating is key!
And women, let’s stop lying about cumming.
Absolutely, I’d find it easier to have a better sexual encounter with someone I know and care about who cares about me and might be considered average attractiveness than a super hot one night stand I know nothing about
That's vital, I completely agree. Sex with people without that connection never was any good to me. It was between "meh" and "ok", but not more.
And being able to share a laugh, even during sex, is awesome.
Being treated as irresistible. Feeling as needed as the air he breathes. Unexpected passion.
Edit to say feeling as needed as the air that partner breathes.
Softness & gentleness, mix of slow & fast but mostly slow, minimal talking, eye contact, smiling, kissing everywhere, foreplay, body support, stamina, effort & most importantly mutual love and respect.
An emotional connection. But since those are damn near impossible to find, I'll settle for: a dick that is above average size on somebody who really, REALLY enjoys fucking me. The last guy I had sex with was def not an intellectual giant and had some real issues but goddamn he worshipped my body. He was really enthusiastic about eating pussy and he did whatever I asked.
So. That.
Good sex is when there's an emotional connection for me. When my spouse is comfortable with himself and asks what I like if I'm enjoying what he's doing and listens when I tell him how to switch it up. Also I like him to be vocal. Too quiet =too boring
Seeing him enjoy me enjoying him lol. When I feel like a guy is just seeing my genitals and pumping for himself, eh. Like that's just his enjoyment that I at least kind of like. But when he's doing stuff FOR me to WATCH me enjoy it, that then causes him enjoyment? 👌👌👌🤌🤌🤌 we suddenly have a jetpack to the peak instead of climbing gear.
Love. Desire. Pheromones. Long foreplay. Deep passionate kisses. Moans, sighs and whispers. Being overcome with the craving need to just melt into her, followed by the animal instinct to devour and take her, feeling the two of you shake and shudder until the walls dissolve and the stars explode.
And laughter. Smiles and laughter is essential.
The most incredible sex (for me) is when foreplay starts outside the bedroom. This could be a mental or emotional connection, and/or flirting and teasing. Then actual physical foreplay prior to making our way to the bedroom, like making out, heavy petting, going down on each other on the couch, pinning each other against the wall, etc. as we grab each other and head off for the bedroom. I love sensuality, and I love it when my sexual partner is present, gentle, patient, and generous in bed. A partner who feels pleasure when they pleasure you is amazing (instead of being self-centered and only looking to use you as a sex toy to get off, like guys who just jackhammer you, gross). Someone who’s willing to explore and try new things in bed is great.
Oh, and I have also noticed that my best sex is with people who don’t watch porn or don’t try to make porn happen in real life. And people who make consent a priority. I like being treated like a human being.
worst sex was either like 10 seconds of making out and then straight penetration, lack of variation in positions, really short sex, a selfish guy (didn't care about doing anything for me), not asking what i want, not having an orgasm/ oral, and biggest -- lack of connection with the person.
or worst, combination of some of those :|
Being comfortable enough with your partner that you can laugh in the middle of sex without killing the vibe. I usually get a little giddy/giggly when I'm really enjoying myself and I like expressing that joy with my partner. Chemistry and a strong connection make it incredible
Also, people who can make me come over and over again. That shouldn't require any further explanation
Intimate foreplay that includes a ton of passion and catering to each other’s personal preferences, followed by mutual vaginal/clitoral stimulation, multiple positions, intense eye contact and kissing, having fun with one another’s kinks, finishing at the same time, and collapsing into each others arms to bask in the glory of the sex Gods we are.
I guess there are so many things how sex can become incredible, as sex with different partners is very often very different and stresses different ways you can be sexual.
So in an evolved relationship, I think one very important thing is to be able to smoothly switch roles with a lot of emphasis on close observation of your partner.
Good sex: I have an orgasm, he has an orgasm. We all have orgasms.
Incredible sex: foreplay + orgasms + aftercare. The before and the after set the entire tone. Good sex becomes elevated to incredible sex with hot foreplay and great aftercare.
And by aftercare, I don't mean slapping my butt, telling me, "That'll do, girl, that'll do" and then leaving to go get a drink for yourself from the fridge. I mean cuddles, soft talking, and checking in.
people are really not created equal in their abilities to read people and their bodies. some are really great, both at reading and reacting and in actual touch- pressure, duration, switching it up.. some guys i have been with have just been very good at pacing, teasing, switching up between moving faster/slower etc
I met a dominant man and became submissive to him. Amazing sex.
Passion, consent, lots of play, dominance/submission, kinks, love, orgasms, gentle, rough and so much more. I want it now.
When there’s a connection, he takes charge, is focused on my pleasure & is actually good at it 🥵. Gets me every time. Although the best I’ve had he did just that & we did every position & thing i like. The sex was intense & I came so damn hard. Afterwards he just cuddled me & kissed me on my forehead. I was so in heaven 😭
Dirty talk. Not porno dirty talk or super out there. Just some dirty whispers of what the situation actually entails. Don't talk about being able to take all your dick if it's on the small side, don't tell us how good we feel, don't force it.
Examples:
"I love seeing your tits bounce as I slam into you."
"It's so hot to see my cock disappear into your lips."
"Squeeze me from the inside."
"You always hit the perfect spot to make me go crazy."
Foreplay, orgasm, etc is all good. But I would argue that most of that is required for "good" sex. If it's a newer thing, it's nice to feel like a sex God, if it's an longer relationship, the contentment of each other, super long would be verification that you each still turn your partner on.
This is hard for me to define. As an abusive relationship and sexual assault survivor, my journey to understanding what 'good sex' is for me has required a lot of experimenting and soul-searching. After that abusive relationship, I went through a hyper-sexual phase to prove to myself that I could still have sex. I was extremely flirtatious, overtly forward and eager to please. What I've realized is that safety and communication are paramount for me. With my last partner, we spent months talking before we actually even had sex. I had never done this before I was very much like, “Let's do it ASAP!”but talking about my likes and dislikes for a while and trusting my partner means that I'm able to have good sex. Having said that, there are a few constant things that take it to another level, when someone has confidence in the bedroom, when there's open and easy communication, and when they're down to try something new. I've been lucky enough to meet guys who usually know what they’re doing, don't rush and seem to know that I can't resist gentle kisses mixed with a bit of roughness and sensuality. Eye contact, light touches, and taking charge are all also good sex essentials for me. But incredible sex, that’s another thing entirely. Incredible sex for me is like when I’m unable to think about anything else but how good this cock feels inside me. I know that the sex had been incredible when I literally don't have the energy to move afterward. Which means, ya know, that I've orgasmed better than I would be able to by myself and usually more than once. There should definitely be some foreplay and a good amount of time spent teasing and exploring each other's bodies, instead of just going straight for the pussy. I also want my partner to walk away also satisfied with the experience. And in addition to the physical stuff, there has to be some sort of emotional connection there. If I don't trust the person or feel like they see me as an individual and not just a means to an end, it’s not going to be able to get me there. It requires open-mindedness, confidence, and a passion for giving. They also need to multi-task, a woman’s body has so much to work with, our nipples, clit, vagina, ass, some combination of three of those should be getting attention from a mouth, hand, toy, or dick at all times. It makes you forget about everything else but each other in that moment. Those things make good go to incredible sex for me.
1: Not having to initiate it when we are in the mood
2:having a session be all about our wants an needs
3: getting to use toys on ourselves without judgment
4: being asked what we like, kinks and all and trying it out.
5: taking your time and not rushing to but
6: ambience
7: foreplay doesn’t even need to be sexual, draw a warm bubble bath and put rose petals on top, write a sexy note and leave it next to a glass of her favorite wine
8: cuddle afterwords and thank her for making sex magic with you.
Men who are enthusiastic about every part of your body. I thought I’d had good sex, but when I met my current partner … whole other level. The man has worship down to an art. There’s something about having a guy running his hands all over your body, through your hair, grabbing your hips, etc - it turns me on so much before he even starts anything actually sexual.
That and his absolute dedication to getting me off. What a keeper.
Years of practice with each other. years of exploring and learning each others bodies so well you could feel them in the dark and know it’s them by the smell, feel of their skin, etc.
Sometimes we make love, sometimes we fuck. Sometimes we do both.
Spanking and light hair pulling. Tell me I’m your bad girl. It’s ok, I trust you and know it’s all kinky fun layered with lots of love.
Fishnets make everything more fun too.
:)
This is just a theory and something I'd like to experience: being open and into my psychology about what turns me on emotionally and relationally, going the extra mile to find out and really SEEK out and help me explore how my head works when it comes to sex. Not just focusing on performing physically but wanting to connect with my entire experience of sex. Being willing to bond with me on what sex means to me. I wish I could experience this
I don't know how to explain this but it's only happened to me one time with my SO or with anyone actually... So we were having sex and were both really into it and something happened, like something in my brain clicked and it was like our brains linked and our bodies were working together like a well oiled machine, we both finished at the same time, very big climax. After I told him what happened and he told me the exact thing happened to him, he didnt want to ruin the moment and say anything but that was definitely the best, most bizarre sex I've ever had.
Being aroused enough that I’m not having to search for a position or spot for it to feel good. I mean ideally most sex would be like that but my body and mood doesn’t always cooperate so I can have good sex that just results in finding good enough and orgasming.
Ladies hands up who doesn’t orgasm with someone 🙋♀️
I wish men would stop watching porn to learn how to do these things like eating out because we try and tell you things like slow down, right there don’t move.. yet you always do 🤣🤣
Good to incredible: Communication, getting to know your partner/them getting to know you. Taking the shame out of the equation, being curious, good foreplay, ongoing communication being open to direct feedback.
I think I heard once "sex starts outside the bedroom" I've had tons of good sex in bed, but I want the well rounded, whole life experience. I want the consistency basically. I can fuck a couple of people and the sex could be bomb with all of them, but if its not consistent then it kind of stains it for me. I want that dirty, sexy bad girl vibes in the bedroom, but make me feel like a good girl outside the bedroom though. I guess if we're talking casual sex though....good hygiene, a hard dick, communication, and accommodation.
Honestly, the week of ovulation. It dials everything up to 1,000. The smallest touch causes waves of pleasure. I’m instantly ready constantly. My insides quite literally ache to be pushed against. I drip, I buzz, I’m on fire. Every cell in my body is buzzing. I long for something warm to suck, something warm to ride, a body to rub against. I drink every drop of sensuality like I am dying of thirst. Then want it all again in an hour.
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Good sex: always having at least one orgasm, being passionately, communicating about stuff we like or don't like Incredible: All of the above + great, affectionate foreplay, including personal kinks a lot, etc.
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Could not have said it any better. ☝️ this right here!
lol at least you’re having one orgasm.
Taught my husband what's important - and making sure we both enjoy is the most important.
100 facts!!
Took the words right out of my mouth
Agreeing with this very much. I don’t have much issues in having an orgasm, but that’s just my body reacting. With long enough foreplay were my mind gets time to “get into the space”, my orgasms are so much more different and satisfying.
Climaxing at the same time. Or within a few seconds of each other. Makes it feel like your pleasure triggers your partner's pleasure or vice versa.
Which means: you have to almost make her cum first.
At least once.
I’m still trying to figure out how to cum.
Keep practicing! Check out Sheri Winston’s book “Women’s Anatomy of Arousal.” And enjoy the journey, dear sister!
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Yes exactly my ex wife would always say you ready and off we would both go. Bloody awesome
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That's so good - I really love when this happens!
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Oof I love that. And then they just feed into each other because... hot
This gets me every time
Passion passion passion. Enthusiasm. Praise. Roughness. Tell me what a good girl I am while you have my hair knotted in your fist. Orgasms, lots of sensual touching, kissing, exploring all over the body before tasting the main course. When it gets down to it, rough and hard, vocal when something feels good.
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“Tell me what a good girl I am while you have my hair knotted in your fist” THAT 😩🤌🏻 or, while you have your hand around my throat and choking me in the best way. 🙌🏼
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When your faces are only inches apart and you're looking into each other's eyes, breathless and at least one of you has their heart racing with all that adrenaline and he's goes deeper with every stroke. That moment of insane intimacy. So basically a very tight connection between the two people.
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Yes. Ill be honest, most times when i look at men while they fuck me i get the ick.. . But this one time, THIS ONE TIME I was about to cum and he pulled me in close, holding my jaw in his hand, and we just peered right through eachothers souls before i came. Never will i forget that level of intimacy
EXACTLY THAT
Oh hell yeah!
Freaking all of this. That kind of passion sends me over the edge every time.
It really does... I'm very lucky to have a partner who showed me what intimacy looks like.
Kissing, eye contact, praise (personal preference), switching positions and taking more time to get me off, etc. The worst sex I’ve had has been with men who either 1) think that just rubbing the clit for 30 seconds causes an orgasm, 2) think one orgasm is enough for a woman, and/or 3) don’t even do any foreplay/oral.
I know! I don't get guys who love bjs but don't like giving me oral
Let me add to the list 4) guys that equate them being hard, with me being wet and ready and just ram it in..... no, amigo, I require a little more effort (I have found these guys are probably the same as Mr. 1
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It's the chemistry. The guy could be an honour student from the university of amazing orgasms,but if you don't have that connection the sex will just be blah.. The best sex I ever had was with the guy who hardly knew what he was doing,but we we're so burning for eachother it was almost painful. That kind of chemistry equals good sex.
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Good foreplay, neck kisses, sensual touches, then hard fucking. Doggy style always gets me there omg.
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Revisiting "fore"play throughout the act. Those things that get us going? Yeah.. they get us going because they're amazing. Use them whenever.
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1) foreplay makes us wet, which helps orgasm later on. 2) letting us orgasm once first is very attractive. 3) passion and some level or intimacy. 4) honestly getting skillfully railed is lovely.
“Skillfully railed”. It’s sooooo good
YES
A patient and attentive partner. If my pleasure and orgasm feels like a chore it ruins it for me. I also hate the feeling of being rushed. Why are we in such a hurry? Sex is fun and feels good. I know different things feel good for different people but if she’s laying there like a starfish and is silent… things aren’t going well. Good sex is feeling that connection and having a penetrative orgasm at least for me. Great sex is feeling totally in sync with your partner and feeling like both of your orgasms are the goal. Cumming at the same time? Incredible. Great sex for me is getting good oral until I orgasm and am begging for it. Make my legs shake and squeeze your head lol. Then have your way with me. That’s hot too. Too many men only care about making themselves feel good and think they are gods gift to women. A great sexual partner will make both yours and there’s a priority no matter what. They will also make you feel comfortable and safe. And for gods sake, communicating is key! And women, let’s stop lying about cumming.
The connection you have with your partner and the fact he’s attentive and makes you laugh!
its SO much better when you can look at the person railing you and think, "yea, i know them."
LOL. "I remember that face."
Eowyn!
Dark have my been dreams as of late...
“I love seeing a familiar face when I’m having sexual intercourse”
Absolutely, I’d find it easier to have a better sexual encounter with someone I know and care about who cares about me and might be considered average attractiveness than a super hot one night stand I know nothing about
That's vital, I completely agree. Sex with people without that connection never was any good to me. It was between "meh" and "ok", but not more. And being able to share a laugh, even during sex, is awesome.
Being treated as irresistible. Feeling as needed as the air he breathes. Unexpected passion. Edit to say feeling as needed as the air that partner breathes.
I couldn’t say this better. It's so underestimated.
Sex is not good unless I orgasm which is then incredible
An emotional connection, when the two of you want to please each other, communicate and are passionate.
Softness & gentleness, mix of slow & fast but mostly slow, minimal talking, eye contact, smiling, kissing everywhere, foreplay, body support, stamina, effort & most importantly mutual love and respect.
Yep
An emotional connection. But since those are damn near impossible to find, I'll settle for: a dick that is above average size on somebody who really, REALLY enjoys fucking me. The last guy I had sex with was def not an intellectual giant and had some real issues but goddamn he worshipped my body. He was really enthusiastic about eating pussy and he did whatever I asked. So. That.
LoVE, when you love the person and you can feel their love toward you
Good foreplay
Good sex is when there's an emotional connection for me. When my spouse is comfortable with himself and asks what I like if I'm enjoying what he's doing and listens when I tell him how to switch it up. Also I like him to be vocal. Too quiet =too boring
Sex is always good with my spouse, but something about ovulation week hits different.
Someone wants to get pregnant
Maybe so. My wife keeps trying to impregnate me, but to no avail. Guess we will just have to keep at it.
Lmao. Keep at it, I'm sure she'll knock you up eventually
Seeing him enjoy me enjoying him lol. When I feel like a guy is just seeing my genitals and pumping for himself, eh. Like that's just his enjoyment that I at least kind of like. But when he's doing stuff FOR me to WATCH me enjoy it, that then causes him enjoyment? 👌👌👌🤌🤌🤌 we suddenly have a jetpack to the peak instead of climbing gear.
One of my favorite things to do with my wife is that.
Love. Desire. Pheromones. Long foreplay. Deep passionate kisses. Moans, sighs and whispers. Being overcome with the craving need to just melt into her, followed by the animal instinct to devour and take her, feeling the two of you shake and shudder until the walls dissolve and the stars explode. And laughter. Smiles and laughter is essential.
aight now i gotta go lie down
The most incredible sex (for me) is when foreplay starts outside the bedroom. This could be a mental or emotional connection, and/or flirting and teasing. Then actual physical foreplay prior to making our way to the bedroom, like making out, heavy petting, going down on each other on the couch, pinning each other against the wall, etc. as we grab each other and head off for the bedroom. I love sensuality, and I love it when my sexual partner is present, gentle, patient, and generous in bed. A partner who feels pleasure when they pleasure you is amazing (instead of being self-centered and only looking to use you as a sex toy to get off, like guys who just jackhammer you, gross). Someone who’s willing to explore and try new things in bed is great. Oh, and I have also noticed that my best sex is with people who don’t watch porn or don’t try to make porn happen in real life. And people who make consent a priority. I like being treated like a human being.
Getting my consent Listening to what I ask for, which includes lots of time on kissing, touching, oral, cuddling and minimal time spent on PiV.
Consent should be the bare minimum for sex in general.
worst sex was either like 10 seconds of making out and then straight penetration, lack of variation in positions, really short sex, a selfish guy (didn't care about doing anything for me), not asking what i want, not having an orgasm/ oral, and biggest -- lack of connection with the person. or worst, combination of some of those :|
This is making me realize I have awful sex with my boyfriend 💔
but i’m glad you realized you’re not getting your needs met. you deserve that!!!
well, this was what bad was for me. some people do like just penetration and don’t enjoy oral, so i suppose it could work in that scenario 😅😅
Being comfortable enough with your partner that you can laugh in the middle of sex without killing the vibe. I usually get a little giddy/giggly when I'm really enjoying myself and I like expressing that joy with my partner. Chemistry and a strong connection make it incredible Also, people who can make me come over and over again. That shouldn't require any further explanation
Love and practice.
Intimate foreplay that includes a ton of passion and catering to each other’s personal preferences, followed by mutual vaginal/clitoral stimulation, multiple positions, intense eye contact and kissing, having fun with one another’s kinks, finishing at the same time, and collapsing into each others arms to bask in the glory of the sex Gods we are.
I am going to buy you a bouquet of flowers. You’re amazing and an inspiration to us all. Thank you.
Wow
Weed
Passionate, deep, baby-making sex without actually trying to make a baby.
Where it hurts a little bit but it's worth it
I guess there are so many things how sex can become incredible, as sex with different partners is very often very different and stresses different ways you can be sexual. So in an evolved relationship, I think one very important thing is to be able to smoothly switch roles with a lot of emphasis on close observation of your partner.
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Emotional connection
Haha me reading this entire comment section despite being asexual and not having sex: interesting interesting. Very informative
same tho, I’m just a curious person
Communication! And making it playful, fun and encouraging
Cuddles before and after (:
And during
Good sex: I have an orgasm, he has an orgasm. We all have orgasms. Incredible sex: foreplay + orgasms + aftercare. The before and the after set the entire tone. Good sex becomes elevated to incredible sex with hot foreplay and great aftercare. And by aftercare, I don't mean slapping my butt, telling me, "That'll do, girl, that'll do" and then leaving to go get a drink for yourself from the fridge. I mean cuddles, soft talking, and checking in.
A partner willing to give me multiples.
When he can thrust and move his fingers in perfect unison focusing on the important area.
Yeah this gets me going.
If he takes the vibrator out
people are really not created equal in their abilities to read people and their bodies. some are really great, both at reading and reacting and in actual touch- pressure, duration, switching it up.. some guys i have been with have just been very good at pacing, teasing, switching up between moving faster/slower etc
Having chemistry with your partner is a good start.
This is 90% for me. The rest will happen organically.
I met a dominant man and became submissive to him. Amazing sex. Passion, consent, lots of play, dominance/submission, kinks, love, orgasms, gentle, rough and so much more. I want it now.
Sexual tension before we get to bedroom.
When there’s a connection, he takes charge, is focused on my pleasure & is actually good at it 🥵. Gets me every time. Although the best I’ve had he did just that & we did every position & thing i like. The sex was intense & I came so damn hard. Afterwards he just cuddled me & kissed me on my forehead. I was so in heaven 😭
leg shaking
Dirty talk. Not porno dirty talk or super out there. Just some dirty whispers of what the situation actually entails. Don't talk about being able to take all your dick if it's on the small side, don't tell us how good we feel, don't force it. Examples: "I love seeing your tits bounce as I slam into you." "It's so hot to see my cock disappear into your lips." "Squeeze me from the inside." "You always hit the perfect spot to make me go crazy." Foreplay, orgasm, etc is all good. But I would argue that most of that is required for "good" sex. If it's a newer thing, it's nice to feel like a sex God, if it's an longer relationship, the contentment of each other, super long would be verification that you each still turn your partner on.
Being in the same rhythm that it heightens the pleasure and you both orgasm at the same time.
Amazing & affectionate foreplay and or roleplay, and climaxing at the same time.
When he gets on top
Taking it slow. A lot of ppl like rough sex but not ALL the time. Taking it slow works best for ME.
This is hard for me to define. As an abusive relationship and sexual assault survivor, my journey to understanding what 'good sex' is for me has required a lot of experimenting and soul-searching. After that abusive relationship, I went through a hyper-sexual phase to prove to myself that I could still have sex. I was extremely flirtatious, overtly forward and eager to please. What I've realized is that safety and communication are paramount for me. With my last partner, we spent months talking before we actually even had sex. I had never done this before I was very much like, “Let's do it ASAP!”but talking about my likes and dislikes for a while and trusting my partner means that I'm able to have good sex. Having said that, there are a few constant things that take it to another level, when someone has confidence in the bedroom, when there's open and easy communication, and when they're down to try something new. I've been lucky enough to meet guys who usually know what they’re doing, don't rush and seem to know that I can't resist gentle kisses mixed with a bit of roughness and sensuality. Eye contact, light touches, and taking charge are all also good sex essentials for me. But incredible sex, that’s another thing entirely. Incredible sex for me is like when I’m unable to think about anything else but how good this cock feels inside me. I know that the sex had been incredible when I literally don't have the energy to move afterward. Which means, ya know, that I've orgasmed better than I would be able to by myself and usually more than once. There should definitely be some foreplay and a good amount of time spent teasing and exploring each other's bodies, instead of just going straight for the pussy. I also want my partner to walk away also satisfied with the experience. And in addition to the physical stuff, there has to be some sort of emotional connection there. If I don't trust the person or feel like they see me as an individual and not just a means to an end, it’s not going to be able to get me there. It requires open-mindedness, confidence, and a passion for giving. They also need to multi-task, a woman’s body has so much to work with, our nipples, clit, vagina, ass, some combination of three of those should be getting attention from a mouth, hand, toy, or dick at all times. It makes you forget about everything else but each other in that moment. Those things make good go to incredible sex for me.
For me, it’s hands. Touching my face, touching my hair, grabbing my body. Firm but gently.
1: Not having to initiate it when we are in the mood 2:having a session be all about our wants an needs 3: getting to use toys on ourselves without judgment 4: being asked what we like, kinks and all and trying it out. 5: taking your time and not rushing to but 6: ambience 7: foreplay doesn’t even need to be sexual, draw a warm bubble bath and put rose petals on top, write a sexy note and leave it next to a glass of her favorite wine 8: cuddle afterwords and thank her for making sex magic with you.
When he’s lowkey obsessed with you
If they're afraid to make noise, but still being passionate, it's good- but making noise makes it 100% better.
Men lurking this thread: *please say the thing I do please say it just say it, I need to see it here please*
Men who are enthusiastic about every part of your body. I thought I’d had good sex, but when I met my current partner … whole other level. The man has worship down to an art. There’s something about having a guy running his hands all over your body, through your hair, grabbing your hips, etc - it turns me on so much before he even starts anything actually sexual. That and his absolute dedication to getting me off. What a keeper.
Connection and foreplay.
I like a little dirty talk. Like calling me derogatory names. It just gets me going a lot easier.
Being in love tbh
Lots of kissing
Mind games are a nice touch
Rhythm and consistency.
Years of practice with each other. years of exploring and learning each others bodies so well you could feel them in the dark and know it’s them by the smell, feel of their skin, etc. Sometimes we make love, sometimes we fuck. Sometimes we do both. Spanking and light hair pulling. Tell me I’m your bad girl. It’s ok, I trust you and know it’s all kinky fun layered with lots of love. Fishnets make everything more fun too. :)
This is just a theory and something I'd like to experience: being open and into my psychology about what turns me on emotionally and relationally, going the extra mile to find out and really SEEK out and help me explore how my head works when it comes to sex. Not just focusing on performing physically but wanting to connect with my entire experience of sex. Being willing to bond with me on what sex means to me. I wish I could experience this
I don't know how to explain this but it's only happened to me one time with my SO or with anyone actually... So we were having sex and were both really into it and something happened, like something in my brain clicked and it was like our brains linked and our bodies were working together like a well oiled machine, we both finished at the same time, very big climax. After I told him what happened and he told me the exact thing happened to him, he didnt want to ruin the moment and say anything but that was definitely the best, most bizarre sex I've ever had.
Preheated coochie apparently😂😂😂
Talking all low and breathy in my ear.
I’m here to screenshot the thread and send it to all of my ex partners- those mfs need the tips
Connection / breathing
Connection
toys
Being with someone I feel really comfortable with.
A partner who actually listens
love/passion/mood
Being in tune to each other sexual and be comfortable enough to make sure each other is satisfied sexually.
Fingers
A pineapple
Foreplay and when there is complicity.
Being aroused enough that I’m not having to search for a position or spot for it to feel good. I mean ideally most sex would be like that but my body and mood doesn’t always cooperate so I can have good sex that just results in finding good enough and orgasming.
honestly i've never came during sex and i'd like to start with that
Moisture Dirty talk Weed? Lol
Ladies hands up who doesn’t orgasm with someone 🙋♀️ I wish men would stop watching porn to learn how to do these things like eating out because we try and tell you things like slow down, right there don’t move.. yet you always do 🤣🤣
Only ever had one guy who almost got me there thru sex itself, must have been hitting the gspot.
Not having to explain how good sex becomes incredible sex.
Looking into the eyes and know love is there, both ways
Consent, explicit consent preferably
Changing positions and passion does it for me 🤤
Foreplay!
Good to incredible: Communication, getting to know your partner/them getting to know you. Taking the shame out of the equation, being curious, good foreplay, ongoing communication being open to direct feedback.
My boyfriend
Moaning and passionately dirty talking
Mirrors. Not above, behind so you can see the deed
I think I heard once "sex starts outside the bedroom" I've had tons of good sex in bed, but I want the well rounded, whole life experience. I want the consistency basically. I can fuck a couple of people and the sex could be bomb with all of them, but if its not consistent then it kind of stains it for me. I want that dirty, sexy bad girl vibes in the bedroom, but make me feel like a good girl outside the bedroom though. I guess if we're talking casual sex though....good hygiene, a hard dick, communication, and accommodation.
Deep desire and affection, good communication, and a sense of adventure.
Honestly, the week of ovulation. It dials everything up to 1,000. The smallest touch causes waves of pleasure. I’m instantly ready constantly. My insides quite literally ache to be pushed against. I drip, I buzz, I’m on fire. Every cell in my body is buzzing. I long for something warm to suck, something warm to ride, a body to rub against. I drink every drop of sensuality like I am dying of thirst. Then want it all again in an hour.
Paying attention to kinks and appropriately applying them at the perfect times. 😩🤌🏻
When you know your own body and can tilt yourself to be rammed at the g spot
Passionate and courtesy of the other person (making sure both of you are able to finish and are satisfied)
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Maybe some sexy role-playing 😇❤️🔥
Climaxing at the same time… post play seals it for me.
Toys, outfits, lightning and scenery...
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